Sunday, February 23, 2025

I'm BAAAACCCKKKK!

Didn't realize it's been almost a year since I last posted.

I need to come here more often.  I had to work just to FIND the blog it's been that long.

Not on Social Media as much any more, politics has overwhelmed me.  Melissa was so good

about expressing her opinion with facts.  I admired that about her.  Not going to go into politics on this post, but I WILL go there eventually.  Too much going on NOT to.

But I'll start with the most recent excitement at the Fortener's...I had a total hip replacement 3 weeks ago (Feb 3 to be exact)!  Received lots of great advice from friends who have had hip replacements - all left me with a positive outlook.   No anxiety just ready to get rid of the pain.   Had been having hip pain for over a year.  Other than limping (which I noticed but no one else did), I never really talked about it. I finally went to the doctor, and PT was recommended first I believe insurance company requires it). PT didn't help.  When I finally went back to the doctor end of summer, she said it was time for an x-ray.  

X-ray showed osteoarthritis and right hip bone-on-bone.  Definitely time for a hip replacement. 

When I finally went to Orthopedic Surgeon (same doc who did Donny's rotator cuff surgery in the spring - that's ANOTHER story) I told him I was having pain in my left knee as well.  Did an x-ray.  Bone on bone. I will eventually need that replaced too, but going to put that off as long as I can.

Before the surgery, I had one person tell me he "walked around the block the day he got home from surgery", and another tell me he "played pickle ball two weeks after surgery!"  WOW!  This was going to be easier than I thought!

I thought I would be coming home the day of the surgery.  So I got a general anesthesia instead of a spinal.  One of the side effects of the general was nausea.  Surgery only lasted 50 minutes (according to Donny, I don't remember).  Not sure how long I was in recovery, but ten minutes out of recovery, PT shows up, stands me up with a walker, and walked me down the hall to a PT room.  Stepped up on a platform, and back down (we have one step into our house), then up 5 steps, and back down (we live in a quad level with lots of steps).  Passed with flying colors.  Thought I would be heading home!

Got back to the room with Donny and Nick, took a drink of water (hadn't had anything to eat for 13 hours) and it came right back up. "Can't send you home if you can't keep anything down".  So I stayed.  Donny went home to get some real rest, and I spent the night.  I should have agreed to that in the first place. Highly recommend staying one night if you ever have this done.

Got a little TLC overnight, and more PT (how to get in and out of the car, and sit on the toilet, specifically!). Ready to go by 10, but I had already ordered lunch so they let me stay a little longer.

I had some great nurses, a great surgeon, but ready to go home.   Up and down steps from the day I got home, also got to sleep in our own bed at home!  No problems.  Pain meds helped me sleep.  Felt great.

Surgery was on Monday.  Two days later, our last class at UD.  (We were moderators for the Adult Continuing Education Classes at University of Dayton with Donny's cousin Ed - that's ANOTHER story). Anyway, I didn't want to miss our last class because we had a special guest speaker that I had been talking to for a few weeks.  I told Donny I would decide that morning - if I felt ok, I would go.  And I DID!  He dropped me off at the front door with my walker.  We didn't have to walk far to the elevators to the second floor, then not far from the elevators to our classroom.  I felt great and it was good to see everyone.

I really didn't think it would be this easy!  Then the block wore off.  Thank goodness for the pain meds.  I'm not playing pickleball, and I haven't walked around the block yet, but have been to a couple of basketball games.  And I finally drove for the first time in three weeks today.  

We missed the Notre Dame, Illinois and Akron Pink Games, but hoping to make to a couple games before the end of the season.  Then hopefully tournament games.

Also made it to the Fairmont Girls Basketball Banquet, Donny presented the Melissa Fortener McLaughlin B Positive Spirit Award this year.  Fairmont is still in the tournament - District Champions.  Playing this week in the Regionals.  Best chance at a state run in almost ten years!


Morning after surgery.  Had to wear something comfortable, so I chose my new 
Fairmont shirt from Pink Game.  44 was Melissa's number when she played at Fairmont!



Amazing that they can put hip replacement hardware in an incision that small.
I talked to a nurse friend who has been in the operating room for hip replacements.
She gave me all the gory details.  Donny wanted me to watch the video of a hip
replacement. After hearing Heather's description, NO THANKS.
Incision was about 4-5" covered with a clear sticky bandage here for two weeks
until my follow up.  Seems to have shrunk a little bit.

And THERE IT IS!  One screw holding in the cup that holds the ball joint,
then the rod that goes into the bone.  Putting the rod into the bone was a description
that helped me decided not to watch a video of a replacement.
Also on this x ray, found out I have scoliosis.  Both my sisters did (do) too.

Second time out - to District Finals!  

Win #1!!

Bri (long braids)  is a former student.  I babysat her son, Ace, for a 
couple months after he was born.  He turned 7 today.
Bri runs a program called Bitty Ballers for kids 3-7 to learn the 
fundamentals of basketball.  A couple of Fairmont's players came
to help.  (Me, Nico, Peyton, Bri, Morgan, Chloe)

Me and Kaylah at Pink Game

The 2025 recipient of the Melissa Fortener McLaughlin B Positive Spirit Award
Morgan Harlemann

Ready for surgery!

Me with Bitty Ballers (after reading Jenna Giacone's book, 
Gabby's Got Game
(Ace in the back with his hands up)

***
I always tried to close a post with pictures/stories of Andrew and Max.
Well, they are both in high school now. Andrew is a Junior, Max a freshman. 
They have pretty busy lives now.  Andrew has a girlfriend, Ella (who we are excited to meet!),
Max just got his temps.  Andrew is playing lacrosse, Max is focusing on football.
We'll be seeing them more once basketball is over and lacrosse starts.

I need to do this more often.

I miss Melissa's posts.  I miss MELISSA.
Every day.
That will never change.












Thursday, April 11, 2024

Busy March/April!

If you follow this blog, you know that basketball saves us through the difficult holidays and that first part of January.  Keeps us busy, and Spring is here before you know it. 

This year, we travelled a little more to basketball games than in past years.

Started out traveling to Washington DC for the Notre Dame/Illinois game.  I wore a shirt that said "Basketball is my favorite season" because we were rooting for both teams.  ND won that game.

Travelled to Champagne, Ill for a couple of Ill games, Indianapolis for the Ill/IN game,  Ball State for 

Ball State/ND game, South Bend for a couple of ND games, Louisville for ND/Louisville game,

Albany, NY for Sweet Sixteen - ND vs. Oregon St.  ND lost (we came home early, and were here for the call from Ed about Lynn.  Things happen for a reason.)

Then to Indianapolis for Final Four for WBIT - Illinois vs. Wash St (Illinois won), then back to Indy two days later for finals.  Illinois won the Championship!

Kind of going through basketball withdrawal...don't know if Maddy is staying at ND (hope so, ND is going to have a great team next year with Olivia Miles back, Hannah Hidalgo and Sonia Citron.   Maddy would make it even better.

Took a few pictures that last couple of months too.  Reminds me that keeping busy keeps us going.


Notre Dame game - Sweet 16 in Albany, NY

Tony, Leanne
Teresa and Matthew

Cousins - Donna, Sharon, Pam

Sisters - Donna & Pam

Family - Tony, Donny, Donna, Leanne, Pam, Jim Sharon

Happy 16th Birthday, Andrew (& Mimi)

Congratulations Teresa & Matthew! We are so happy for both of you!!

Leanne & me celebrating Matthew & Teresa

Sharon, Jim, Teresa, Matthew

Aunt Donna, Teresa, Matthew


@ Illinois game

Fighting ILLINI!

Notre Dame


Me and Hannah Hidalgo

Celebrating after ND game!

Iowa Coach, Lisa Bluder.  Iowa was staying in the same hotel as ND in
Albany, NY for Sweet 16.  Caitlin Clark was just to her left - didn't 
see her in time to get a picture! Darn!

me, Susan, Vicki  (Maddy's Mom and Aunt)

Fortener Easter hunt

Hinkle Fieldhouse for Illinois vs. Washington State
Final Four - WBIT



Let the celebration begin - ILLINI win the Championship!

me, Shauna Green (head coach), Donny 

Jenna Giacone, me

Donny & Jenna

Donny & Calamity McIntire (assistant coach) She's on a radio interview!

My WBIT Bracket - I KNEW Illinois would win!
CONFIDENCE!

Happy 16th Birthday Andrew!!!

Family

Nick wins the final game in the 100 Square pool!
(it was a birthday gift from me!)

Max - lacrosse

Max and teammate (they are the same age!)

Andrew - goalie

Albany, NY

Donny, me, Vicki, James, Jim

me and Kendall Bostic (plays for Illinois)

Another ending to March Madness.
It was a good season for all of our teams!